Try and relax and not let it worry you.  Perhaps calmly discuss the reasons why you had surgery and explain the positives of having a stoma to them e.g. perhaps you were in severe pain prior to your surgery and the stoma has given you the opportunity to live a fuller life.

Remember that they may need some time to process the information as they may not have heard about stomas before.  If it seems to be a big issue for them however, remember that it’s their problem and not yours! Colostomy UK has a number of male and female volunteers who are willing to talk in confidence about any concerns you may have. 

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